The Struggle Reaps Its Own Reward

We are all on a journey of refinement, our souls purpose is to bring us the parents, siblings and friends who will help us to strive, to mellow, to knock off our own rough edges. We want to be seen and heard but most of all we want to feel safe and loved. We come into physical life, leaving a place of unconditional love and compassion, we give up this ethereal state of being because we want to move forward, to develop ourselves, to experience the physicality of all aspects of life. The spirit world is home, it is all love but it can't lend itself to learning in the way that physical life can. Here we experience holding a baby, or climbing a mountain, we learn the science of bringing different elements together to create food dishes, which of course brings together our five senses, here we can create and feel the satisfaction of our creation, in fact we are all natural creators and the most important creation we undertake is of ourselves. We are eternal but the physical body is not and so we get to re-emerge into physical life time and time again, each time being specific to our choice of learnings, each time is precious and unique, each chance is a gift, an honour and should be taken as a serious opportunity for growth and understanding.

We are all different, like the many notes on a piano, no two are the same and so our developmental needs are different. There is so much for us to learn and there is no end to the learning, and we often concentrate our energies in one direction to grasp as much as we can, but life often throws up the unexpected and changes our trajectory. This happens when the soul wants a new kind of learning and even though we don't want change, we get into ruts where we feel safe with the known, but the point of life is expansion and change must happen to bring new growth. You have filled this space completely, I recently had to separate and repot my spider plants because they had consumed all the soil and replaced it with roots, their leaves were browning, they were starving but stuck. I was amazed at how many pots I needed in order to repot and give them growing room. We are the same, we cannot expand beyond our self-imposed confines and so something gives or breaks, this could be our health, parts of our family breaking away to live a different life, our jobs ending suddenly, having to move location due to natural disaster or war. Whenever life changes quickly and unexpectedly it is because the soul has given us three chances to make adjustments for ourselves, but we have rigidly stuck with what we know and feel safe with. The soul steps in to say No, enough, its time to grow again, you have stopped creating. Sometimes these changes take us into something that is apparently worse, such as the many people being displaced, but each one of them is learning how to adapt, how to survive. Some will take a ruthless dog eat dog approach, some will learn a greater compassion and love for each other. All will gain experience that only this situation can bring about. It all adds to the souls growing understanding of itself. We as humans only see a small part of the picture, the tapestry that is being woven. Each difficulty tests and tempers us like steel being forged in extreme heat, then pummelled and hammered into shape. We had as easy way into love, but non of us took it, we chose the hard way ,but we are finally getting there. We are starting to refine our abilities and there is a greater need now to express the love, compassion, kindness and charity of heart that lies within each one of us, a love and forgiveness that will set us free from the bondage that we have imposed on ourselves.

When we can reach a point of self-mastery, unconditional love will have blossomed, that is our ultimate goal and destination, but in the meantime we learn from our parents, siblings, teachers, colleagues and society, the many forms of lessons and we take everything personally, we take the responsibilities, the hurts, we learn from flawed parents who are still on their own journey of learning. They don't intend to harm us, but they can only teach us from their own life patterns and experiences, they repeat the learnings from their own parents and so it goes back through the generations. It is up to us now to have compassion for our parents, to forgive their well-intended but incomplete understandings. It is time to see them as children who did the best they could with the inner tools they had, and by forgiving them we can free ourselves, we can change those 'parts' of our behaviours or limiting beliefs by going within ourselves and exploring, pushing those self-imposed boundaries, seeing a new and exciting truth. Our unconscious mind runs 95% of our daily life and most of our programming was learnt before we were age seven. Self-compassion, self-understanding, realising that we don't have to keep running these old, worn thin programs, we can take responsibility and bring change, we can break the mould and free ourselves, and the first step is realising the truth of this.

Annette Morris 11/03/25